Sunday, January 17, 2016

Influences in Our Lives

This is the text of a Sacrament meeting talk I gave today, Sunday January 17, 2016...

Let me tell you about a former co-worker…  In 1982 I was a new employee of the AT&T owned American Bell.  I became friends with a man by the name of Jim Fama… we worked together and for a time we car-pooled to work.  Jim was a good man; religious Catholic with several children and a wife that he adored.  He had a somewhat acerbic wit and we laughed many times with him at things that happened around the office.  When someone would complain about having to do something that they didn’t want to do, Jim would say: “You’re born, life’s miserable, then you die…” (Of course, I’m paraphrasing).  Kind of a way of saying “Waa, waa, waa… do it anyway, ya crybaby”, something else Jim often said.
Jim was right…  We were all born to the mortal world…   We all will die and be released from this earth life.  What happens in between these two events?  Living and learning; working and playing; failing and prevailing.  Sometimes things in between are hard and painful.  Many times life is also great. 

This brings me to the topic of this talk…  We all know what the plan of salvation is, a concept which we may be somewhat unique in believing.  Let’s review:  We learn on our Church’s web site about the plan of salvation – the plan of happiness:
“We are eternal beings. We lived as spirits before we were born and we will continue to live after we die.
God is the Father of our spirits. We are created in His image. We have a divine nature and destiny.  Before we were born, we lived with God, the Father of our spirits.
Our life on earth has purpose. Coming to earth is part of God's plan for us to gain a physical body and learn to choose between good and evil.  Our Heavenly Father sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to be our Savior and show us the way to live according to God's plan.  Following God's plan for us is the surest way to find happiness and endure life's challenges.
Our lives will not end when we die. Our future lives are determined by the way we live our lives now.”
(ref: https://www.lds.org/topics/plan-of-salvation?lang=eng)
In harmony with these concepts is this scripture: 
“For behold, this is my work and my glory—to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man. “  (Moses 1:39)

You probably recall the couplet penned by Pres. Lorenzo Snow:  “As man now is, God once was; as God is now man may be.” (The Teachings of Lorenzo Snow,   ed. Clyde J. Williams [1984], 1.)
We all probably know enough about the Plan of Salvation for me to go into it any more.  It’s enough to say that we have a purpose and goal for living in this life.  We each must have, or get, a firm testimony of this plan and understand how we can build our lives around it.
While we are here on earth we are subject to may influences; those for good and those for bad.  If we have a testimony of the plan of salvation, we will try to heed the good influences and block out the bad.  How hard this is to do sometimes…

Question:  How do we know what is a good influence and what is a bad influence? The Book of Mormon prophet Mormon taught:
“For behold, my brethren, it is given unto you to judge, that ye may know good from evil; and the way to judge is as plain, that ye may know with a perfect knowledge, as the daylight is from the dark night.
For behold, the Spirit of Christ is given to every man, that he may know good from evil; wherefore, I show unto you the way to judge; for every thing which inviteth to do good, and to persuade to believe in Christ, is sent forth by the power and gift of Christ; wherefore ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of God.
But whatsoever thing persuadeth men to do evil, and believe not in Christ, and deny him, and serve not God, then ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of the devil; for after this manner doth the devil work, for he persuadeth no man to do good, no, not one; neither do his angels; neither do they who subject themselves unto him.”
  (Moroni 7:15-17)
Mormon teaches about a good “measuring stick” for knowing what is good and what is not.  Now, keep Mormon’s words in your mind…

We are subject to many influences in our daily lives.  Influences are like the constant winds on breezy day (everyday, here near the point of the mountain, it seems).  We are influenced constantly.  Have you ever taken a few minutes at the end of a day and thought about how you were influenced… and which way the influence led you?  Or whether or not you should heed the influence?  There are many ways we can be led…
Bad influences:  Almost too numerous to count…  We can be touched by Television, movies, advertisements, strangers and even friends or colleagues.  We can be influenced or affected by many of the tools Satan uses to make us fail: appetites, passions, natural wants and desires.  Satan uses envy, pride, human greed.  Two of his favorites tools are forgetfulness and discouragement.  He influences us by using the opinions of others, such as you might see in social media…  Often times, these opinions are applauded by others even though we know they “…persuadeth no man to do good…”. Many times if we post a differing opinion, we are shouted down, often maliciously .   (Just as an aside, this is one of the problems with on-line communication;  we’re not looking at the person in the eye and the spirit of what is said is lost).  There are many other influences in our lives, almost too many to count.  So many that it can be discouraging.  You probably could come up with a list as long as your arm if you think about it.

Good news!  There are also good influences on us:  Parents, spouses, siblings, and good friends can influence us for good.  Church related events and good leaders can help us and uplift us.  Reading scriptures, learning from conference talks, hearing testimonies of others can bring the Holy Spirit into our lives, lifting us and buoying us up.  Pondering and praying help us to take stock of our lives and gives us the opportunity to account for ourselves to our Heavenly Father.  There are tools that the Lord has given us to help us with our lives.     He has blessed us with the bestowal of the Holy Ghost, with the ability to receive constant personal revelation.  We have the scriptures to show us His interaction with past saints.   We have great leaders and their examples of righteousness and wisdom.  We’ve been given the association of each other as neighbors and branch members.   We have our regular church meetings, where we learn of the Gospel and feel the influence of the Holy Ghost.   This is one thing in particular I would like to address:  Attending Sabbath meetings. 

In the October 2008 General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Elder Dallin Oaks said: 
“We live in the perilous times prophesied by the Apostle Paul. Those who try to walk the straight and narrow path see inviting detours on every hand. We can be distracted, degraded, downhearted, or depressed. How can we have the Spirit of the Lord to guide our choices and keep us on the path?  In modern revelation the Lord gave the answer in this commandment:
“And that thou mayest more fully keep thyself unspotted from the world, thou shalt go to the house of prayer and offer up thy sacraments upon my holy day;
For verily this is a day appointed unto you to rest from your labors, and to pay thy devotions unto the Most High”
(D&C 59:9–10).  (October 2008 General Conference).
Elder Oaks goes on to say:
“This is a commandment with a promise. By participating weekly and appropriately in the ordinance of the sacrament we qualify for the promise that we will ‘always have his Spirit to be with [us]’” (D&C 20:77), (October 2008 General Conference).
  
There are many ways to honor the Sabbath and keep it holy.  One of the most important, however, is to attend Sacrament meeting and worthily participate in the ordinance of the Sacrament.  How do we do that?  The answer is by anticipation and by preparation.
Anticipation, or looking forward to, Sacrament meeting may or may not be easy for us.  For some people it means looking forward to pondering the Gospel, seeking for spiritual guidance, or feeling the Spirit.  For others, it may be more like looking forward to a wrestling match of wrangling youngsters and trying to keep them calm. In both cases, preparation is important.  During the week is the time to prepare; actively consider what specific blessing or help you may need from Heavenly Father.  Pray for guidance during the week. Enlist your family’s help in this preparation and make sure they know you are depending on them for their reverence during this sacred time.  Have a plan for reverence during Sacrament meeting that your family concurs with.  On Sunday, arrive early enough to listen to the prelude music and relax.  Ask again for guidance and then listen for the spirit’s direction.  Keep in mind, the direction may come from an impression received, from a talk, or from a testimony, from the words of a prayer.   Listen to the sacramental prayers carefully and understand their meaning.   Read Elder’s Oaks’ address from the October 2008 General conference to be inspired to be better Sabbath Day worshippers.

Remember that I have just described the ideal Sacrament meeting; if it doesn’t work out that way the first time, keep trying, don’t give up.  Indeed, “…the Sabbath was made for man…”.  The Sabbath can be a great influencer for good.

One last thing I wanted to address:  Sometimes people, being mortal human beings, succumb to the wrong influences.   Too often this is the case.  Too often, people get discouraged when they slip up and give up trying.  If only there were some way to make things right again, some way that mistakes would be forgiven and forgotten…  Oh, wait… there is!  It is called repentance.  Jesus said:
“Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest,” (Matt. 11:28.)
Repentance is truly a miracle.  It is one of the foundations of our religion.  President Spencer W. Kimball, who wrote the book “The Miracle of Forgiveness” said:
“Just as the prodigal’s father received him, our Father in Heaven eagerly desires to forgive all those who repent.
We are deeply grateful that we have his definite promise that where there has been sin and error, they can be followed by sincere and sufficient repentance that will in turn be rewarded with forgiveness.
The glorious thing about the whole matter of repentance is that the scriptures are as full of the Lord’s assurances that he will forgive as they are full of his commands for us to repent, to change our lives and bring them into full conformity with his wonderful teachings.”
(October 1982 General Conference).
The steps of repentance will cleanse us, returning us to a holier state.  The experience can strengthen us against future negative influences and help us to prevail in the face of temptation.

Although it is often hard to do, we must embrace the influences that lift us up and ignore or discard the multitude of bad influences.  Using Mormon’s measuring stick, we can determine what kind of influences we face.  It is my sincere hope that we can prepare ourselves to stand against the things we face in our daily lives.  It is my testimony that being stalwart in the face of temptation is not easy but is and will be worth it.  At the judgement may we hear the words

"...Well done, thou good and faithful servant...enter thou into the joy of thy lord" (Matthew 25:21).